Below you will find an excerpt of a piece I wrote for an online dating community called Pursue Dating. I was definitely flattered when the opportunity came about and I was chosen.
It took me about a week to figure out what I wanted the topic to be. However, in the end, I decided to target one of the biggest issues I’ve seen over the years.
Please be sure to check it out.
Some may call these preferences unrealistic and some may call them unreasonable. However, none of that matters to the person with the preferences. Regardless, they want what they want even to their own detriment and the resulting dating pool shrinkage.
Preferences are Abundant
There are far too many preferences to name when it comes to men and women. Between a man’s height, to the woman’s backside, the list is endless. To make matters worse, daters are literally making choices based on superficial wants, when we should be making decisions based on the things that sustain a relationship for the long-term.
Don’t get me wrong, having preferences isn’t a bad thing. However, they can prevent us from being completely open to the possibilities in front of us. If we are steadfast in believing that our preferences are “needs” when they are truly “wants” we will constantly find ourselves running into the same type of person over and over again.
Remember, the keyword in preferences is “prefer.” Meaning, you prefer a taller man, but his height isn’t the key to happiness in your potential relationship. You prefer a voluptuous woman, but that preference only satisfies a carnal need that does not support a long-term relationship.
